Money Doesn’t Ruin Relationships. Silence Does.

Money Is Already Talking in Your Relationship

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Whether you discuss it or not.

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Money shows up as:

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● tension

● silence

● resentment

● over-functioning

● control

● avoidance

● distance

● shut-down

● “I’ll just handle it myself”

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Most couples don’t actually fight about dollars. They fight about safety, freedom, trust, power, care, and feeling seen.

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That’s why the way I teach couples personal finance has become some of the most effective relationship coaching I offer.

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A Neutral, Safe Space for Hard Conversations

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Money conversations are loaded.

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By the time couples sit down together, they’re often already defending themselves against wounds that aren’t even fully named.

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My role is not to take sides. My role is to slow things down, bring perspective to what might be underneath, and help both people feel met.

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In our work together, we:

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● externalize the problem (money is the topic, not the enemy)

● create transparency (because secrecy feeds shame)

● replace assumptions with curiosity

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You don’t need to be good with numbers. You need the courage to be honest.

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Getting Both People’s Needs Met

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True financial intimacy isn’t about agreement on every line item. It’s about understanding:

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● what safety means to each of you

● where freedom feels essential

● which choices feel regulating versus triggering

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Sometimes one partner wants to know there’s enough. Sometimes the other wants autonomy over how it’s spent.

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Neither is wrong. But unspoken, they collide.

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With structure, language, and practice, couples learn how to:

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● ask without attacking

● listen without collapsing

● negotiate without keeping score

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When these needs stay unspoken, the body braces — and small decisions start carrying enormous emotional weight.

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The Outrageous Fun Method™ (Yes, Really)

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Money talks don’t soften under pressure. They soften under play.

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I bring decades of experience as a performer, mediator, and coach into what Icall the Outrageous Fun Method — using humor, embodiment, and creative reframing to disarm shame.

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Laughter isn’t avoidance. It’s a nervous-system reset.

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When people laugh, they tell the truth. When they feel safe, they change.

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Certified in the Financial Recovery Method™, I give couples practical tools and skills for managing money now, as well as planning for the future.

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That tension at the kitchen table? Those escalated words from the couch? Bring them to me. I can help you breathe more air into them.

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What Couples Actually Say After

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Clients don’t usually say:

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“We optimized our system.”

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They say:

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“We talk differently now.”

“I don’t feel alone with this anymore.”

“I finally understand what money means to them.”

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Two clients put it perfectly:

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“She’s not saying I’m wrong; she’s asking to be heard.”

“I finally feel like the leader of my family.”

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At this point, their account balances hadn’t changed yet. Their conversationbalances had.

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Money as a Practice of Intimacy

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Once couples learn practical money tools and skills with the Outrageous FunMethod™, they can finally talk about numbers and decisions without causing further harm to their relationship.

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Numbers don’t lie — but we can’t always see them clearly without a third party holding steady, neutral space, so that you can finally get to real change.

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Money coaching with me is not about perfection. It’s about closeness.

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Closeness to yourself. Closeness to your partner. Closeness to the values you want your shared life to express.

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If you want money to stop pulling you apart — and start bringing you closer —Couples Money Coaching can change the entire tone of your relationship.

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If you’re not fighting — but you’re not really talking either — this work can help.

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To get a feel for how I work, check out my website: www.landinthenet.com/money

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Budgeting used to be about rules. With me, it’s about relationships. With yourself.With each other. With your future.